How to Introduce Rest to Children

Restorative practices for home and school

When I first began sharing yoga with children, more than two decades ago, the part I quietly struggled with was relaxation.

Movement felt alive. Creative play flowed easily.

Then I would begin to transition toward rest.

And the children were everywhere.

Rolling, whispering, adjusting, sitting up, rolling in their mats.

The last thing they appeared to be doing was resting.

For a while, I thought I needed better techniques.

Clearer instructions.

More "control".

It took me time to understand that the real work was elsewhere.

Before I could support children’s nervous system regulation, I needed to notice my own state. Was I steady? Was I grounded? Was there tension in my voice or urgency in my pacing?

Children sense our nervous system long before they respond to instructions.

My capacity to offer rest began with regulating myself.

Over time, my approach changed.

I do not invite children to be still.

I do not require them to lie down.

Instead, I offer different ways to rest.

Rest for children is relational.

It grows from safety, connection, and a felt sense of support. Children read the environment and the adult in front of them. When they feel met, their body has more room to soften.

Offering restorative poses for children is not about achieving quiet children being still. It is about creating the conditions where the nervous system can shift toward settling.

I noticed that children carry stress in many ways.

It may appear as irritability, difficulty concentrating, tummy aches, headaches, restlessness, or fatigue. The body communicates through sensation long before it finds words.

Restorative yoga offers the body an experience of being supported where

the environment plays a role. Warmth from blankets. A softer tone of voice. Reduced visual stimulation. Clear reassurance that you remain present. These elements communicate safety.

Energy levels also matter.

Some children arrive with activation still moving through their bodies. In those moments, a brief period of rhythmic movement, wall pushes, crawling, or playful strength work can help the body organise before gradually entering a restorative pose, acknowledging that rest does not always begin from stillness.

Below are three of my favourite restorative positions that I keep coming back to and that can be adapted for home, classroom, or after school settings.

I always suggest exploring them in your own body first.

Children feel authenticity.

1. Legs up the sofa, chair, or bench

At home, legs may rest on the sofa. At school, they may rest on a chair, a bench, or even a sturdy school bag.

The pelvis can rest on the floor or be slightly elevated on a folded blanket if that feels more comfortable. The legs are supported by the surface in front. Arms may rest by the sides or on the belly.

You might gently invite the child to notice the contact of their back body with the ground. The weight of the legs being received.

If lying flat feels uncomfortable, cushions can lift the upper body. Support the neck so it feels easy.

Rolling to the side before sitting up allows the nervous system to transition gradually.

Five to ten minutes can be enough, depending on age and comfort.

This position can be especially supportive after school, offering a reset before homework or evening routines.

2. Supported Child’s Pose

Sitting back on the heels, place a firm cushion, bolster, or even a school bag in front. Invite the child to rest their front body over the support. The head can turn to one side, and after a few minutes you may gently offer a change.

In a classroom, resting the forehead on folded arms on the table offers similar contact.

This forward folded position can feel containing. Gentle sustained contact at the forehead stimulates sensory pathways through the trigeminal nerve, which carries information from the face to the brainstem. The brainstem plays an important role in autonomic regulation. Steady pressure in this area is associated with settling responses.

It is not unusual to see children instinctively place their head on a desk when overwhelmed.

Choice remains important. Nothing is forced.

3. Side lying restorative rest

For some children, lying on the back feels too exposed. Side lying can feel more protected.

Invite them to lie on their side, knees softly bent. Support the head so the neck feels neutral. A pillow between the knees can create ease. A cushion or bag behind the back offers containment. The lower arm rests in front. The upper arm may rest on a pillow to allow space for breathing.

Some children appreciate holding a small smooth object in their lower hand.

It can provide grounding and a point of focus.

This position can be stayed in as long as it feels comfortable.

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The entry into a restorative practice can be adapted according to the child's needs.

One practice, where Melanie Cooper and myself share in the Enchanted Rest - Yoag Nidra for Children on demand course, is a Moving Yoga Nidra, where a small soft toy is slowly guided across different parts of the body.

The start position for the practice may begin sitting.

The toy rests in the hand, travels to the arm, to the shoulder, to the belly.

Attention follows the contact.

You can view the practice from the course here.

You will see how you may begin upright, and through steady contact and guided attention, gradually choose to transition into a relaxation position on the floor.

The relaxation pose emerges, rather than impose.

This reflects the heart of restorative work with children.

The support comes first. The position follows.

For teachers, educators, therapists or parents wishing to deepen this work, in the Empowering Children Through Yoga and Creativity kids yoga and mindfulness teacher training at Yogarise I explore how to introduce restorative poses while honouring children’s nervous system, regulation and developmental steadiness.

So, perhaps the question is not how to make children rest, but how to create the conditions where rest can find them.

If you have had any experience of sharing this with children, I would love to hear your thoughts so we can continue this dialogue.

With warmth,

Ayalá x